Matt, reading your post has my stomach in knots. Started sending me love songs. This male is 63 years old and no end of this obsession in sight. He would never leave if you were worthy to him. She cant get back at them specifically, so she picked you instead. -An impossible repair as the disagreement gets deeper Thank you for the objectivity. My heart goes out to you. Your ex does not have any kind of emotional attachment to you. Only 6 weeks after his move, then only responded by text for 4 months, never spoke to me about breaking up, then posted a pic of him and new GF on FB and never texted or spoke to me again. Warden I now have the keys!! I could never please her. Also, my thought was, if he was so desperate to get the equipment and he knew i was ignoring him, why didnt he send me a registered letter, put a note on my door or car (which by the way, was parked in front of my house the day he knocked on my landladys door) or send the sheriff to my house with a court order? Hold on to that LOVE you still have inside you When I was down in the dumps with a reduced income she kicked me to the curb and then kicked me a few times. NEXT, I am a small woman and live on my ownnobody. If you have issues with this image being used, you should contact them. I cant sleep I cant eat. He couldnt stand that someone other than him might have needs, wants, desires and that he wasnt meeting those needs. Once youve forgotten and its safe for them to come out of hiding and re-establish the previous illusion of them they think you have, they return as though nothing happened but theyre wary of you now just in case you saw what was behind the mask. Dont settle for scraps when there are people out there who love you just the way you are and want to be with you through good and bad. Yet, how can you be friends with someone who is so evil? Its true, this kind of abuse does indeed cause very real physical symptoms. I was extremely cautious and he knew it. So I felt your words and enjoyed reading you this morning. But I suspect now that he has used up all of his tricks he wont come back. Im sure the new girl has questioned him about this and of course they can spin it to look like you were the b-tch all along or that you are jealous of his new love but one day she will see the truth and my guess is she has already and will be adding 2 and 2. Deep down, theyre terribly insecure and the bravado they exhibit is nothing but a mask to cover up how they really feel. I nicely asked him for respect and told him what he was doing was verbally abusive. But don't get me wrong. Now that was somethingIf I ever had doubts about him, I dont have them anymore. Whether they believe the narcissist or not is irrelevant, theyve sown a seed of doubt so that when you do tell your side of the story, theyre skeptical. Only uses him when its convienant for him. He tried to make me jealous with a over-weight woman who glares at me. I miss that person. Told him he was a liar, manipulator, attention seeking narcissist. I had left my narc on a not good note. So, if he dont like it and cant wait until I decide when I want to sit the boxes outside my door, he can call the sherriff and he can come by my house and Ill be happy to turn them ovr to him but my ex is not running anything here anymore. He said it was work related. We got back together and she told me it was over with the other guy because he had a temper and used drugs. Even if I do not go to prison or die, there is nothing to support my family and that nothing can be changed. I have nothing to offer. Its been a monthly ST recently. Wants the kids to see you both as friends. Im new to the revelation of having been with not one but two narcissists. No means no and thats what she has violated a lot of timesacting like a 10 year oldseeking revenge and such etc.. So empty. The dynamic is different from normal in so far as this is a group of people who take part in a sport I dont actually have to specifically spend time with this person but he is always there an omnipresence and vocal with it as you would expect its all about him the notion that he is as I suspect him to be is quite unambiguous. He also used someone elses phone number, which I looked up on googlemaps to see the location cause I dont answer numbers I dont recognize. I have been with him for almost 2 years. Trust me, this is all said in love from one victim to another. After first break up there was No Contact for a year and a half and when I finally forgot all of the things that occurred and I was quickly back in a whirlwind romance; only to move back into the list above. Although it took me completely off-guard, made me very nervous yet very happy and introduced me to some new emotions suddenly, I fell in love with you so hard Im still not sure what to do about it. A narcissist will always return to an ex-lover to ensure that his narcissistic supply still pines for him and that she never moves on from the pain he has caused her. He is trying to invade your space physically and mentally, even though he has already moved on. .they disappear after they have disclosed too much. They arent, so they have to undo you like a fly in a spider web and make you feel as crappy as they do. Her sickness is ALL HER. -Overpowering the partner with a loud, yelling voice I feel he came into my life to teach me something, and ultimately broadened my compassion for others. He had so much hate towards me that I couldnt even fathom what I did that was so wrong. I was obsessing about him even though my life was going well. Or if he apologizes he expects everything to immediately go back to normal. Didnt you guys notice I was always on edge whenever I was out? U have been dating a narcissist for 18 years and been married to him for 10 years before he left me and his adlut kids for someone new and i am in therpy now and want to heal but i cant get him to divorce me so heal and move on nowing i dont have the means to get rid of him and he has recently has job saying hedoesnt work there so he doesnt have to put on his health insurance.and this way he just keep living this lie he not married and lies about how kids he has and he has no contact with or me he says were his past but wont divorce me to be the past.so mw and kids can move.is there a reason for this? And in my mind it feels like if he walks behind me or is somewhere els in the shop. He is gone. thank you, how do I survive Narc mother convinced entire family including my kids I am no good since no contact with her I am very sad. Today, he showed up at my front door. . All done to hide who they really are & what they are actually doing to you, PURE EVIL, This is however not about us Never did it occur that I would, but heres my advice: Dont attack. But well, you know, we talk to people as we talk to ourselves. They are ALL relevant ( in my humble opinion) He began making friends unknown to me and did not include me on outings. He is 42 and has had a string of relationships that always endI miss talking to fault and and spending time together. I am going to train my mind with positive things that shows me my capacitys and the people i am making smile. My narc was beautiful. I have been on and off with my ex for 5 years. This gives them a great advantage over us. I hope its the latter for you! Woke up with my heart beating . Hello, It is good to read en find people who can relate to this issues. It drives humans to seek rewards and motivates them to act and live their lives in productive ways. 3 years takes my money my water bill is due and I have no way to pay it and he knows I can afford and reconnect fee. Even though its recently ended, he has tried to regain contact, to which I originally thought he must want control over me again. My ex treated me like a queen when he wasnt being a crazy maker but I knew something was terribly wrong. 4. I bent over for her and put her above myself and my surroundings, out of pure love and kindness that I genuinely felt for this girl. I keep trying to justify his behavior. I never knew such EVIL Existed. I married an alcoholic whom didnt stay in recovery. Some things cannot be faked. Im here to tell you the one wayhow to know if a narcissist is finished with you. And he was abused my his father as a child, so I feel sorry for him. No i am letting go. The heart of the book is explainingwhy we do things in these relationships we dont understand and how we can stop. They are full of jealousy, rage, insecurity, and hatred. If you have established NC where does all the rage go? I literally have no idea. So much. I get it. We were together for 4 1/2 yrs. I would appreciate if someone could make this last part clear to mewhat disappeared..? Thank you for sharing your experiences. Not an emotional goodbye. Ive come to accept he will neve change and that he will never ever come back to me ( not even to apologize for the hell hes making me go throught and affecting our son too). The next day that dog was gone. I am so angry with him but dissapointed in myself! I dont know about the sex because he found it difficult to get it or keep it up towards the end of us as I was onto him and was setting boundaries, the stress was killing his libido I think, hence the reason this new target suits because she is careful and that suits him because he cant perform ? We separated in August 2012 four days after our daughters 7th birthday after him striking me so hard I thought hed broken my jaw/cheekbone. Its only temporary.. Just when i get better as time went on. Block him and move on. Allow me to break it down for you: []. some deep childhood trauma No []. So please let me know when you get home and I will call you back. Be an adult.. I went from the frying pan to the fire!! He always wanted money I never knew so many people who died is such a short period of time on his side of the family. Why was he not discarded as quick as me? Unfriend & unfollw him on all social media. There are so many situation through the day when i think of him. 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